#1 – What is Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy?

Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#2 – Unicorns and an Interview with a Polyam Friendly Therapist

Are you down with the OPP?

In this episode: We talk about unicorns and have an interview with Sarah who is a polyam, LGBT+, and kink friendly therapist.

Main topic

Definition
What's the issue around seeking a third?
You can have an ethical triad
How to do it wrong?
But, we have a lot of love to give
Our experiences in triads
Why are unicorns wanted when you first open a relationship?
Are you down with the OPP?
Are you using the right terms for the ENM you want to have?
Can you feel the same about two different people?
Can you be equal in a relationship?

Interview:

Who is Sarah?
When should you see a therapist?
Coming out
Polyam helps you with risk assessment
Recommendations around vague rules

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

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#3 – Long Distance Relationships & How to Find a Polyam Friendly Therapist

Going the distance

We discuss: long distance relationships and finish a conversation with Sarah the polyam friendly therapist.

Our experiences
Choose your own adventure
Love languages: words of affirmation, touch, gifts, acts of service, quality time
Explanation and examples of love languages
Love languages can be different in LDR
How to maintain a LDR (Visitation, Expectations)
Concerns around LDR
How do you find a polyam friendly therapist?
In what ways can our relationships impact our mental health?

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

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#4 – Dating, Partner Selection, and Relationship Amateur Hour

How do you date as a polyamorous person?

In Today’s podcast: Dating advice followed by relationship amateur hour.

This episode was recorded before the pandemic changed how we met people. Check out last week's episodes about Long Distance Relationships if this one doesn't help.

Dating within the polyam community
Crossover with other communities
Online community spaces
Friends
Cheating, honesty, and consent
When do you disclose you're polyamorous
Online Dating (OLD)
What not to do

Relationship amatuer hour:

What are your tips for dealing with a monogamous metamour?
What are some of the key questions to ask yourself before pulling the plug on the relationship?

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

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#5 – Hierarchy vs. Entanglement & Relationship Amateur Hour

Entangle and wrangle

In today’s podcast: Entanglement vs. Hierarchy, and another segment of Relationship Amateur Hour!

Hierarchy vs. Entanglement

Definitions of Hierarchy
Considerations for the "why" of hierarchy
Definition of Entanglement
Personal experiences
Are relationships a buffet?

Relationship Amateur Hour: What if I discover I'm polyamorous while in a long-term monogamous relationship?

Could that realization be why the divorce rate is high?
Media portrayals of polyamorous relationships - or lack thereof?
Finding truly helpful resources, learning useful terms
Polyamory under duress?
Research and conversation with polyamorous people as ways to avoid common pitfalls in learning about or transitioning to polyamory
Polyamory, a bouquet of options
Rules and wanting control
Relationship check-ins? Of course!

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#6 – New Relationship Energy and an Interview with Rick

NRE - that butterfly feeling

In today’s podcast: New Relationship Energy

New Relationship Energy:

Personal experiences w/ NRE
Impact of NRE on relationships
Adonis effect - seeing your metamore through your partner's NRE
Mitigation strategies for NRE: keeping dates, reflecting on positives in relationship,
Duration of NRE for us and general norms
Setting boundaries around discussions about new partner

Rick Interview:

Time to date together?
What do we look for when media doesn't display polyamory.
Local communities are fun to participate in.
X-men triad relationship!?

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#7 – Polyamory Myths and Talking with Rick

Sharing is caring, please share our podcast. It really helps!

In today’s podcast:

Myths about polyamory:

Are we afraid of commitment?
What is commitment?
Isn't polyamory just about sex?
Is cheating a gateway to polyamory?
Is polyam men with harems of women?
You don't experience jealousy
Examples of jealousy and controlling others relationships
Are we at a high risk of STI's?

An interview with Rick:

Being out at work
Coming out to your parents.
Coming out to your friends.
Definitions of nesting partner and/or entanglement. Nesting partner: a partner you live with. Entanglement: Shared responsibilities.

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#8 – Cheating and Boundaries & Being a Polyamorous Parent

Two segments, not directly connect.

In today’s podcast: Boundaries and Cheating; Parenting While Polyamorous

Boundaries and Cheating

Rules vs boundaries
When do you see more or less rules?
Examples of rules
Why do we make rules?
People change
Check ins are important
Personal experiences with cheating
Comments on cheating, divorce, and ending relationship
A season, a reason, or a lifetime
Emotional cheating
Is the concept of emotional cheating similar to thought policing?
Lying, emotional abuse, and needs for maintenance.
Nothing wrong with incompatibility.

Parenting While Polyamorous

Benefits of parenting in a multi-adult household
Everyone gets more siblings in this family
Quality parent/child time
Challenges of being a polyamorous parent
Harder to find a babysitter due to size of their household
Lots of the same challenges of other large families.
Do your partners meet your kids?

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#9 – Should We Tell the Kids We're Polyamorous & Date Night Anxiety

Honey, I Told the Kids

In today’s podcast:

Date Night Anxiety

Date night anxiety is that feeling of dread you may feel when your partner is about to go on a date
Personal experiences, what it feels like initially
Causes of date night anxiety
Coping strategies
Calling/texting during dates
Alone time/busy time/affirmation about self or relationship/ reconnection
Phone a friend to gush!
Let me ask the questions
Abstract out level of sexual intimacy
Best practices

Should We Tell the Kids We're Polyamorous:

Children Scream in the Background
Why tell the kids?
What are the benefits?
What are the risks?
Don't ask your kids to lie

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: Jordan Davis

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

Awesome logo design by Carmen Bolding

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#10 – Coming Out & Relationship Bill of Rights

In today’s podcast: Coming Out & Relationship Bill of Rights 1 of 3 -https://www.morethantwo.com/relationshipbillofrights.html

Sorry for the delay in this episode, future episodes are to be released bi-weekly. :)

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Credits

Co-hosts: Kevin Leahy and Elisabeth

Editing: J. Menton and K. Leahy

Intro music, transition music, and credit music are all by Antti Luode.

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#11 – Jealousy and Relationship Bill of Rights

You jelly?

In today’s podcast:

segment 1: Jealousy

segment 2: Relationship Bill of Rights part 2 of 3

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Editing: Jackson Menton

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#12 – Privacy vs Disclosure & Relationship Bill of Rights

In today’s podcast:

Segment 1: Privacy vs Disclosure

Segment 2: Relationship Bill of Rights As mentioned before More Than Two was written by both Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. Franklin is the one accused of misdeeds.

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Editing: Jordan Davis

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#13 – Polyamorous Communities & Swinging vs Polyamory

Did you know that trees rarely go to swinger parties? Yeah, I hear they're pretty mahoganous.

In today’s podcast: Polyamorous Communities & Swinging vs Polyamory with Ken

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#14 – Being Bisexual and Black in Swinging

Bi erasure, racism why not both?

In today’s podcast: Bisexuality in Swinger and Polyamorous Communities & Being Black in Polyamorous and Swinger Spaces. We round out our discussion with Ken about several serious topics.

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#15 – Polyamory During the Holidays & Dating Friends

Have a poly poly holidays this yeeeeeeeeaaaaaaar.

In today’s podcast: Polyamory During the Holidays & Dating Friends

What should you consider? How to handle multiple religions.

Pros and cons of dating friends. How to end things compassionately.

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#16 – Relationship Anarchy

Power to the people

In today’s podcast: Relationship Anarchy

Link to a translation of the original document https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy

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#17 – What's Great About Polyamory?

Plus self work. What is it and how does it work?

In today’s podcast: Self work and the beneficial side of polyamory.

Learn how to cook amazing meals with Kevin! Check out Y'all Cookin'? on our Website or Facebook

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#18 – Red Flags

Plus a response to a changing relationship.

In today’s podcast:

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#19 – Valentines Day & Metamours!

What's love got to do with it?

We're dropping this episode early because tomorrow is Valentines Day. How do we celebrate? What should you do? Who do you see!?

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#20 – Religion and Polyamory & Sanctity

With guest star: Helios the cat

In today’s podcast:

We discuss polygamy in several different religious structures. We also talk about the idea of "sanctity" in relationships.

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